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Femme men don’t have an easy time at life, even within the gay community. GTC Newsletter Get notified of new posts, video blogs, and more! I allow gaytherapycenter. Adam Blum. In cultures where women behave differently, do effeminate gay men behave similarly to women in their culture?.

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An "effeminate" man is worried be might be "too effeminate," so he's seeking a second opinion from his local advice columnist. No book is perfect, and the middle chapters of The Velvet Rage may not resonate with everyone. You May Also Like Free Online Class Ready to start feeling better about yourself?

The book ends with smart tips about how to overcome shame by moving towards greater authenticity and empowerment. Does the stereotype of the effeminate gay man only exist in western culture? Why are our homes so often featured in interior design magazines? Life gets easier when we have more confidence.

You will feel seen and heard in these chapters. Shame is universal. They often face misogyny, shaming and sometimes even violence for proudly and unapologetically challenging machismo and heteronormativity. Some related questions: Do effeminate gay men actually emulate feminine mannerisms or is the behavior distinct, but only similar?

Schedule Your Free 15 min. And reading your feelings described on the written page is healing. He ignores what happens when our shame leads to other common traits that I see in my psychotherapy practice, such as codependency. Schedule Free 15 Min. Ready to start feeling better about yourself?

And with our shame comes the problems of self-sabotage, avoidance of risk, or the exhausting efforts of overcompensation or seeking validation. Check it out. Notify of. Oldest Newest Most Voted. Gay Men and Femininity: The Horror. Inline Feedbacks. What I love about the book are the first several chapters where he validates, with hard-hitting language, the challenges of growing up as a gay boy in a straight family.

At its core, gay male homophobia is caused by a fear of the feminine. This video covers the struggles of a feminine gay men, getting deep into the real downsides of being feminine. I hear straight men quietly complain about it. He writes about his clients and friends who are wealthy gay men living in Beverly Hills.

Essentially The Velvet Rage is a book about shame. In these chapters, without actually admitting it, Downs is focused on what happens when the shame of being gay merges with someone who has a tendency towards narcissism.