Vs gay

Hi, here is what I think. Queer is a slang term used for sexual and gender minorities (LGBT). I tried dating heterosexual women with disastrous results. Gay, as a title given to a group of people, doesn’t make it shameful or awkward for the homosexuals. “Queer,” on the other hand, is more of an umbrella term for members of the LGBTQ community, including bisexual, transgender, and nonbinary people.

I have never been heterosexual. To preface my comments I do not have to be stealth at work. I hate the fact that people commit suicide over dumb stuff like this. The term used to be a slur, but many younger LGBTQ people have reclaimed it in a positive way. Find out about Psychotherapy when dealing with Gender variance in yourself or someone close to you.

In the s, the term was re-appropriated from its use as an anti-gay epithet. This is a very good blog entry on this topic. That is gender, i. I consider myself a straight pre-T, pre-op transguy. Queer vs. There is a mind set that comes with an orientation of any kind, and I am not heterosexually minded.

In this article, we will explain how the terms gay and queer are used differently in the context of sexuality and gender identity. And I remember when I was lesbian, all those years ago, asking the same question. Great post. Therefore it is possible to confuse or conflate sexual orientation with gender identity.

There are also men, who are more feminine than most, but are still attracted to women. As a therapist who provides therapy to the transgender community in Dallas, I see these types of misconceptions on a regular basis. This may be a very basic post for some and if so I invite you to skip it, but it is one of the most frequent search requests that land people on my blog, so I thought I should write a very clear answer to this query.

Heterosexual women expected behaviors and ideals from me that are heterosexual, and male, in nature. I totally understand this due to my previous lesbian background. Gay and queer are terms often used to describe sexual orientation and identity, but they have different meanings and connotations within the LGBTQ+ community.

What is the difference between the words gay and queer? I wrote previously about the difference between some experiences of gay and transgender people here. The world has very little tolerance for gender non-conformity, although the world is changing. I think it has to do with the fact that queer folk — i.

Hi, If a transgender man feels more feminine inside, would that make him more attracted to men? Both gay and queer are often used as self-identifying terms. I am FtM and I still identify as lesbian. Thank you. Gay “Gay” typically refers to someone who is attracted to people of the same gender.

I have a few comments regarding being transgendered and sexual orientation, and about the statement that the gay and lesbian communities are historically trans friendly. In addition, much of the stigma and discrimination suffered by gays and lesbians over the years has more to do with their visible gender non-conformity than with their invisible sexual preference.

Gender Identity is how one identifies in terms of maleness or femaleness. A transgender man may feel more feminine because she considers herself a woman. Sexual orientation is which sex they are attracted to. Growing up in a small religious community, it took me a while to accept myself for who I am.

Femininity and masculinity is just a character to a person. I also experienced their later paranoia regarding people that would perceive them as lesbian in my presence, when in reality this was not possible because I look like a man. In other words — among gay men — there may be a larger percentage of gender fluidity — or those who identify as somewhat more feminine than among straight men and the same with gay women.